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Chelsea I like the letter to Kent, except at the end because it makes it sound like you are giving him all the power, and from how he's treated you he doesn't deserve the power. I would be more like 'wtf, do you want to be friends or not dickweed because i'm cool and you are kinda jacking me around and you hurt my feelings', except without the swearing and surliness, basically I think it's far too nice. I know you want to be friends with this guy, but (and I dont want to sound like Im bossy or right or anything, this is just what I think), but stand up for yourself more. you do a good job in the beginning, but the end sort of spirals into a little bit of weenie-ness. letter 2, I'm clueless on. But if you are talking about what I think you are talking about, be super careful. It can be really hard not to involve feelings, even if you are sure you won't. Especially when you don't have a lot of experience with these things. But without knowing the situation, it's hard to say. If he's someone you wouldn't really see a lot and there is *no* possibility of things getting serious, it might be able to work out. It seems like a good letter, but again without knowing what went down on this date (and it sounds juicy, please do tell!) it's hard to say. god, i talk too much. good lucks! [2005-10-06 23:37:07] I wouldn't send either one of these emails. I agree with Chelsea on the fact that they are way too detailed. I think the second one is inappropriate after just a first date. If you don't like the guy (which it kind of sounds like you don't)... nothing more is required than a polite decline if he asks you out again. On the Kent email... you're not going to want to hear this but I have to be honest. It's downright stalkerish, in my opinion. I can see a guy like Kent reading that and being pushed away even more... just as Chelsea said. I'm actually pretty shocked your therapist approved sending that email. To me, based on everything you've said... it seems pretty clear Kent isn't interested and is just afraid to turn you down. He's avoiding you for a reason. I think to send him an email like that would really freak him out. Sorry to be so blunt... but I think you are just setting yourself to have your feelings hurt even more. I'm glad you've been dating other people, and I think you should continue doing that until you find the right one. Best of luck! [2005-10-07 11:43:42] I would never send that first one to Kent, but just my personal opinion. I agree it sounds really stalkerish (Kristi put into words what I was thinking!) and would lead to way more discomfort on both your parts considering you are such close neighbors, and I would think he'd not want to pursue any type of friendship even. The other one, I'm curious to hear more... Will read your next entry. [2005-10-07 13:06:31] add your comment: |