She will be loved

Thursday, Oct. 06, 2005

more about the date

After seeing Chelsea and Slush's comments, I think I need to explain the second letter. I don't want to go into the whole story of the date, so I'll just talk about feelings. I am totally not attracted to him (too many reasons to go into details), but he's the nicest guy. We really have nothing in common, other than adoring our cats and being homebodies. He is 37 and never dated before doing the online thing, and he told me of some pretty bad rejections he's encountered through that. As far as I know (I didn't want to pry, but if he's into the friends with benefits thing, we'll talk about all that), he has had no experience with women whatsoever. I'm 29 and have no experience with guys.

I wouldn't want to date him, he is not my type in any way. But in the dark, I could make out with him or have sex or whatever, and I think it would be so less intimidating than those things with someone experienced in them.

Why not use each other? I'm talking careful stuff, and slow. Just experience the things usual teenagers do, and we're too old to pass up the opportunity of finding someone else in the same situation. It wouldn't have to be sex, I just want someone to kiss and who will put their arm around me in the dark

If we agree in the beginning is that that's all we'll be doing, I mean that all we'll be doing is sharing the experiences and breaking each other in, and that if either of us starts to feel differently, we'll discuss it. Just try to feel really open about everything.

Watching/Hearing/Listening to: leno
Drinking: nothing
Wearing: same

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